Three Summer Vacation Mistakes Your Ex Will Never Let You Live Down

Posted on: 31 March 2016


When you divorce with children, the goal of both you and your spouse should be to get along as well as you possibly can for the sake of the children. Unfortunately, while this may not be always possible, there are a few things that you may do with the children on summer vacation that will probably send your ex over the edge. If you do not want to hear about these things forever, or end up back in front of a family law judge, here are three things that you will want to avoid.

Taking Your Child/Children On A Trip Of A Lifetime With Your Child Support Money

If you are a non-custodial parent that has a child support order in place, it is important that you honor this agreement for a variety of reasons. While you may only think these funds are designed to help provide for your child financially, but they do much more. By voluntarily paying your support, your child to see you honor a commitment you have made to them as well as your ex spouse. 

While you may be tempted to use your child support funds to take your child on a trip of a lifetime, do not give in to this temptation. Unless your order clearly allows you to not pay support during the time the children are with you, not paying during this time could put you in arrears, or behind, on your payments. Being behind may not only result in giving your spouse grounds to complain, it could also give them grounds to bring you back to court. If you are paying through the courts, you may also face other punishments. These include the following:

  • Garnishment of your income taxes
  • Garnishment of your wages
  • Loss of your driver's licenses
  • Loss of your professional licenses
  • Revocation of your passport
  • Lien on your property and more

Taking Another Person On Vacation With You And The Kids Too Soon After The Divorce

How soon is too soon? Only you can answer this question. But one of the things that you want to keep in mind is that the time you spend on summer vacation with your children should be focused on your children. This is usually not a good time to introduce them to the new love in your life. Not only will taking your new significant other on vacation with the children tick your ex off, but your children will probably be slightly resentful as well.

Not Working Out Schedules In Advance

The last thing that you do not want to do is to make all of your plans prior to consulting the custodial parent. Although you may be guaranteed so many days, weeks, or even months during the summer, you need to ensure that these dates are still going to work for your ex, as well as for your children. Work out these details outside of the presence of the children and then present them as a united front. Put your feelings aside and allow your children to enjoy a conflict and guilt free summer.

To learn more, contact a divorce lawyer